Sunday, November 13, 2011

How To Get Through A Break Up & Become A Better You!

Break ups are hard and heart wrenching experiences, especially if you were the one who was let go. I know. I've been there. We all have, but, believe it or not, there are a few things you can do to lessen the pain and even come out the other side happier and even more confident. In this article, I'm going to give a few tips on how to get through a break up and become a better you!

If the break up is recent or fresh, I know you're probably in a lot of pain right now. You may be inflicted with restless nights, loss of appetite, depression, and low esteem. It's natural to feel this way, but let me remind you that this is something you own. These feelings don't have to consume you. Whether you're looking to get your ex back or just want to move on forever, these tips will help you tremendously.

These are not gender specific. These tips works in getting over a break up for women just as much as it does for a man.

Learn How To Let Go

You have to accept that it's over and work towards healing again. You cannot heal unless you learn to let go, because the break up is not in your control, especially if it was the other person's decision to end it. The more you try to control what you can't the more frustration and misery you cause yourself.

The more you try to resist this fact the more it will consume you and be constantly on your mind. Learn to let go of the past and began moving on. You cannot change the past or what has happened. it's done and over. You can only make the best of today and the moment.

You Are Not Your Relationship

I want you to repeat this to yourself. You are not your relationship. You don't need it. You may want it but you don't need it. Your life is not your relationship. Your life is your life.

The reason many of us fall into depression is because we define our lives in a particular relationship. This is wrong to do. Your life just adds to a relationship. They are not one and the same.

This is one of the problems many face when being in a relationship. Somehow, they may have lost themselves and only thought of the needs of their partner or the relationship. They stopped being an individual and lost sight of who they were that their partners fell in love with to begin with.

You are a separate entity from your relationship. You define who you are, and guess what? You are who you are and deserve happiness just like anyone else.

Learn To Love Yourself Again

This is important, because after a break up we may be thinking negative thoughts about ourselves. Remember, you are very much in control of how you feel about yourself.

Think about your positive points again, and be sure to remind yourself of these whenever a negative thought about yourself starts to creep up on you. It's very easy for lies to creep into your head when you're in a vulnerable state after a break up. However, it's imperative you catch those lies and reverse them.

Don't devalue yourself and who you are. Embrace yourself and love yourself for who you are. It's not your concern whether others accept you or not. It only matters if you accept and love yourself. This is one of the best ways on how to get through a break up.

Change Your Mindset

Right now you're thinking that this break up is the most terrible thing in the world. You feel defeated rejected and are afraid of being alone. I'm going to tell you a little secret here that you've probably heard before but rejected time and time again:

You are the one who controls how you feel!

It's true. You can look at this break up as a negative thing, or you can see the potential of wonderful opportunities this break up may bring.

New experiences are on the horizon if you let them be. You can start up a new hobby, meet new people, and date new people. And these new people are going to wonderful. You will definitely meet another love.

You now have the freedom and mobility to do this. Start looking at positives instead of negatives. There's so much out there in world to experience and learn. Nothing is holding you back from happiness except yourself.

Read Part two of How To Get Through A Break Up & Become A Better You!

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