Thursday, September 30, 2010

Things To Say To Get Your Girlfriend Back

After a break up, you may be concerned about what to say or the things to say to get your girlfriend back. Most guys do this. They think that sweet talking them or trying to work things out is the answer. Line after line after line they give their girls until these guys are left there wondering why she wont respond to their texts or phone calls anymore.

Are you one of the guys? If you are, you may have noticed that trying to convince them and sweet talk them isn't working. The truth is after a woman calls it off with you, there is NOTHING you can say to get your girlfriend back

At least, this is true when the break up is still fresh. You'll need time apart first.

The most you can do is apologize. Now this is not to be used liberally. You will only apologize if you did something really messed up to her that caused the break up. If you didn't do anything wrong, don't apologize.

If you were a jerk, call her up and give her a sincere apology. Give her a little time to cool off first. Apologize and then cut it short. Don't make small talk. Don't chat her up. Just a sincere apology and then hang up.

Depending on how bad of a jerk you were, this act alone may repair the damages done to your relationship. However, most times it's not.

After apologizing, there are no things to say to get your girlfriend back, and the best thing to say is nothing at all. Leave her alone for a while. She doesn't want to hear anything you have to say for a while anyways. 

Give her space, and let her gather her emotions.  This is called no contact, and it means exactly what it says - NO CONTACT!

No contact is extremely hard. Removing yourself from someone's life whom you've been intimate with is not easy, even for a little while. However, it must be done. How long should no contact be?

No contact should last as long as it takes you to get your head on straight and move past the break up. During no contact, you should learn all there is to the no contact rule.

Yes, there are rules to no contact that you should follow if you want to increase your chances of getting your ex back. But no contact is not the entire strategy. It's only one part to it.

Getting your ex back is a process. No contact is the stage that should give you a good foundation of winning your ex back after the no contact rule. That's if you follow the rules.

I have  written two free ebooks about the subject of no contact. Click the links below to get them.

1. Behind No Contact 

2. The Rules of No Contact 

Don't try to get your ex back before you even know why you should use the no contact rule with an ex. There's nothing you can say shortly after a breakup, and chances are the more you say, the more you can damage any chance of ever getting them back. 

 Most try it to wing it, and they fail miserably. You've been warned!

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