Thursday, September 9, 2010

Do Not Accept Friendship If You Want To Get Your Girlfriend Back

Many people have different opinions on this subject, and I have to go from experience. If you want to get your ex girlfriend back as your girlfriend then you have to refuse the "friendship offer" during a break up.

Being friends with your ex girlfriend is a sure fire way to decrease your chances of ever getting back together with her. Actually, one of the top reasons why most guys are never able to get back together with an ex girlfriend is because they made the mistake of accepting friendship with her.

Here's why accepting friendship with an ex girlfriend ruins your chances to get her back.

1. You force her to take you for granted.

Let me explain. If you've read anything about the "NO CONTACT" rule, then you'll realize just how gold that step in how to get back your girlfriend is. Being away from your ex girlfriend forces her to miss you, while remaining in her life, even worse as a friend, gives her the opportunity to ween herself from you gradually.

2. You become just an ugly girlfriend. 

What does this mean? Well, a guy friend to a girl is just an ugly girlfriend. Yes, you will become her emotional tampon, especially when it comes to her dating troubles. Not good, and if you've cemented yourself in that position it will take a long time to get out of.

If you're lucky to ever get out of that position.

3. You're lying to yourself

Let's face it. You want her as your girlfriend....not a friend. Also, you think that you may be clever and try to win her back by sneaking through the back door. Wrong! This is just going to end up all bad. You will get frustrated when she doesn't see you that way anymore, and even more fights will break out.

Be honest with yourself and with her. Don't try to pretend to be a friend while plotting how to get her back at the same time. The only person you will severely damage is you.

Do you really want to be hearing about her latest date?

Or, even worse, her new boyfriend?

4. You're going to end up fighting

This connects with the 3rd reason. When you secretly want your ex girlfriend back and are pretending to play the friend role, you're giving yourself and her too many opportunities to have fights. What do I mean by this? Well, don't tell me you're just going to sit quietly by and try not to change her mind about the two of you getting back together.

You will. I know you will, because the opportunity is there. AND, it will be too hard to resist. When you constantly try to change her mind, you're actually pushing her in the other direction. She will get annoyed with you, and you'll get frustrated with her.

The end result: You two will fight until she NO LONGER wants anything to do with you.

Can you see why remaining friends with ex girlfriend is a sure fire way to not get her back...ever!

If you have yet to read about NO CONTACT then I suggest you visit the link to the right and download the free report Break Up 2 Make Up. It details that very important step, along with many others. It also goes into detail on why they're so important in how to get back your girlfriend.

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